Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Ordinary Things

Writing a post here for bearbits is a pleasure and often I consider it an ordinary thing. So too was hearing my husband’s mom’s delight in reading about our adventures either in the studio or on the road. I imagine she would have loved Sebastian’s acquisition of his own car! She was one of bearbits most loyal readers.

Now we have to go forward only imagining what her response would be. And I can imagine it. I will tell you why.

A long time ago at my wedding shower, the guests were given an index card and instructed to give the bride (me!) advice for a happy marriage. Hers was as follows:

- Talk everything over.
- Have fun!
- Don’t let the house get to you. If he wants to go somewhere with you, drop everything and GO!
- Don’t wait until you are old and gray to go places you have always wanted to see together; your health may not let you later.
- Have some interests together and each of you have some you like to do with other people.
- Keep your sense of humor!

I found her advice in my keepsake box a few months ago, before she became ill. It was a happy find. And I am happy to know that without even realizing it, for the most part, we have followed it. She was a lovely person; one I am glad I could call my friend.

Now Jay and I and Sebastian will continue to heed her advice. We intend to keep our sense of humor and have fun! I hope you will come along with us for the ride.

Happy Trails PDB!

love & hugs,



  1. What a lovely post~~~Something everyone should take to heart.

  2. creo que su suegra de dio unos consejos muy valiosos



  3. Sorry for your loss. Life is certainly a journey and we can choose to enjoy the ride or complain the whole way.... your MIL sounds like she enjoyed every ride and you were blessed to have her in your life.

  4. No wonder you are such a beautiful person, Miss Ginger, you were brought up by a beautiful Mom. This post brought tears to my Mom's eyes and then we hugged each other real tight!

    Thank you.

    Prudence ♥

  5. What lovely memories of a great lady. I'm sure you have many more. I'm thinking of you all.
    I will be following you, so Sebastian you still need to have great adventures.
    Big Hugs

  6. That is *AMAZING* advice, and as someone just about to get married... I find it invaluable.

  7. I'm so sorry to hear about Jay's Mom. And, also, I'm so glad that you have such lovely and loving memories of her. From your post today, I can see now a little bit of what has made you and Jay such wonderful people. Know that I'm holding both of you in my heart.


  8. So sorry for your loss. That is wonderful advice your mom-in-law gave. :)

  9. Aww, she sounds like a very wise woman! Hugs

  10. Very good advice, and isn't it lovely to come across things like this that remind you of a loved one. We have some wonderful things that my Mum kept for us to have after she was gone - including a 25 page letter from my Granddad when my eldest brother was born, another letter from him when he heard that the next child was born - Mum and Dad kept it secret until Ian arrived! We don't know why, but maybe it was about the dark days of war when they didn't know if they'd survive the blitz in Liverpool. There was also a letter from the BBC inviting my sister, then 5, to come for an audition, and some scripts that Mother had used as a broadcaster.

    Yes we'll be with you on the way and keep an eye on Sebastian for you.


    Alan (and Jock too!)


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